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Let's talk about boundaries⠀⠀
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📸my collab with @thisthingtheycallrecovery⠀⠀
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some of the most frustrating things about sharing anything about my health online is dealing with unsolicited advice and people forgetting that i'm a real person and treating me like i'm google or their therapist. ⠀⠀
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working on my boundaries has been incredibly important with all of this, because whilst i do want to help and respond to you guys as much as i can, it also got to a point where it was really impacting my mental health when people were taking advantage of that, or messaging me things that made me uncomfortable.⠀⠀
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but, as many of you i'm sure also experience when you ask someone to stop or that you don't need their advice, a lot of people get incredibly defensive.⠀⠀
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this can manifest in a number of ways. the two i experience the most is constantly stating their own issues as a way to try and make me feel bad for making them feel bad because for setting boundaries (which is quite frankly, as my therapist reminds me, is not my problem), or people getting aggressive or bombarding me with messages, or both. my absolute favourite? “don’t reject some ideas because it breaks your boundaries…think of it as some higher power sent you these ideas via me…" 😕⠀⠀
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now, the thing is, clearly this person above, and many other people (including ones who get aggressive when i refuse to play their therapist) do not actually care about me. what they actually care about is either their belief that they can truly help someone (whether the person wants it or not) or the image they in their head of what they want and need from someone like me. ⠀⠀
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if your response to someone’s boundary being placed is to lash out at them or get defensive, that often says more about you than it does about them. i even see this in my comments when people leave unsolicited advice for others and then get angry when it's not well received.⠀⠀
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i know a lot of things that i receive are sent with good intentions, but if someone says your messages aren't good for them, respect that. i understand that can feel mortifying if you have crossed someone's boundary, but don't keep pushing. it's not about you. ⠀

12 hours ago comment 40 star 923

💕you are not your disorder.
you are not your mental illness.
you are not your body.
you're a whole person.
your afflictions aren't what define you, they are simply a part of what makes you.💕

16 hours ago comment 8 star 573

Understanding this has been one of the biggest eureka moments in my recovery and understanding my transition from anorexia to binge eating. i was not a "compulsive overeater." i was not "addicted to food." i did not have to "overcome emotional eating" or "cure" myself from binging. i was hungry. physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally - i was hungry.

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13 hours ago comment 7 star 300

Shout out to @thefuckitdiet for shining some light on this.
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for some bodies, no matter how hard they diet, they will never be thin. because news flash! bodies come in all shapes and sizes.
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we are sold this idea that it’s so “easy” to lose weight and “anyone” can do it - wrong. for some bodies it’s easy to be thin, because they are genetically disposed to be that way. but if monitoring of our food intake and activity is required to maintain a certain body size - than that’s not our natural body size.
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so what is our natural body size? it depends. our body size is not stagnant. our body size changes as our life changes, as we have different experiences and do different things. if it weren’t for fatphobia and weight stigma, we wouldn’t see it as a problem.
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i know how challenging in our culture it can be to accept being in a bigger body instead of constantly tying to make it thin, so i have two resources that can help:
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📙 my body acceptance jump start guide, which you can download for free on my website (click link in my bio).
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👩‍🦰 six-weeks of one-on-one coaching, where together we will begin to dismantle the beliefs and old ways of relating to your body, so you can feel freer and happier in the body that you have. click the link in my bio then “work with me” to learn more.
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12 hours ago comment 28 star 833

Vet ni, i början av året satte jag upp mål för mig själv. i sann psykologanda bröt jag ner målen i delmål, för att stärka mig själv genom att ta små steg. en löprunda oavsett hur lång eller snabb, räknades och tog mig ett steg närmare slutmålet. och från att tidigare alltid tränat i försök till viktnedgång, har jag denna gång fokuserat på annat. det har handlat om att övervinna rädslor, att känna mig stark och att våga försöka. att hitta värdet i att träna för mig själv och för att må bra 💪
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ett första större delmål var att kunna springa 5 km utan problem. medan mitt slutmål var att springa loppet, ”spring en mil, vinn en bil”. och ni som följt mig har verkligen peppat och stärkt mig, för jäklar vad jag har varit nervös och rädd 💖
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jag ser inte ut som en löpare, jag är helt medveten om det. men igår kände jag mig som en löpare. jag vågade försöka och min kropp bar mig genom 1 hel mil. min kropp är så stark. och när jag korsade mållinjen kom tårarna. jag klarade det!
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idag har jag skavsår i ljumskarna, det är mindre kul... men fan, detta är en high jag aldrig vill glömma. det var helt fantastiskt 🎉🤩
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19 hours ago comment 46 star 271

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11 hours ago comment 18 star 1,091